Life of a muslima

  When I was a kid, my grandma would only let us watch TV for a short time. But now, everyone has difficulty controlling their kids by using gadgets.  We all get tired sometimes, and the only resolution that we see is to hand them over a gadget and make them watch. However, in all things, there is always a balance, and as a mother of a toddler, I learned that discipline is very important to start at a young age. When I say discipline, it doesn’t mean that I need to hurt my kid but to talk to him and let him cry if he can’t get what he wants. I don’t stress over the noise of crying; I just tell my son that he can cry but not too loud because someone is sleeping and we don’t want to disturb them. I praise and reward him whenever he does something good and shows patience, and I always remind him of this phrase that I learned from Omar and Hana: "If you are upset, you should try to be patient because when we are patient, Allah will be pleased." I’ve been telling this to my kid ...

  I never thought I would be the mother of a boy who is brave to protect his imaginary baby, loves to cuddle with the cat, and will spread cookies on the floor because he wants to feed the ants. Every morning, he walks with me to the market and greets everyone; he is a peacemaker between his friends, he loves to say thank you and say Insha'Allah when he wants to go to a toy shop. Day by day, my son is growing and learning to ask questions like, "What is that and then?", “Do you hear that? "And why I can’t let him do things, why he can’t listen to music, or why I can’t let him watch Halloween videos, I always try to answer his questions, fill his curiosity, and explain things. Incredibly, two years old can comprehend and can be patient. Since then, I have learned that I cannot underestimate him, I cannot think that he is just a kid that will not understand, and I cannot stay quiet and say nothing. I was afraid that at such a young age, my son would be gloomy because h...

  My husband is tall, dark, and handsome. He thinks like a philosopher, and his speech is intimidating yet inspiring. It was not hard to fall in love with him. However, relationships outside of marriage were not an option. It was a long night of uncertainty, but before the night ended, I decided to ask him to marry me. And I’ve told that story to many women. And I’m neither ashamed nor regretful. It was 2014 when my husband and I got married. It was a simple and private wedding, hidden from my in-laws. My husband and I were young and still students at that time, and my in-laws were unready for it. Out of fear, we hid it from them. Alhamdulillah, after one year, we confessed. Unexpectedly, they accepted it, and at last, we escaped the difficulty of hiding. Today, in our Ummah, getting our parents approval for marriage has been a common problem when it should be simple. Whatever the reason, we have to conquer our fear and put our trust in Allah. Eventually, it will all turn i...

    Are there any times when you feel your faith is weak? Or do you find yourself not performing Salah or wearing your hijab anymore? I asked myself once, "Why?"  In this world full of temptation, hardship, and enjoyment, we tend to forget who we really are, our purpose, and that Allah swt is watching us. Some of us chose to drink wine over halal drinks. Some chose to scam people instead of earning in a permissible way. And some of us chose to have fun over standing in front of our Lord.  Why do we do this? Why are we taking for granted the commandments of Allah swt? There are many reasons why we lose our Iman; sometimes it is because we are not patient with the trials that Allah has afflicted us, or sometimes it is because we are excessively enjoying our lives. What I noticed with these sisters who stopped wearing their hijab and brothers who drink or smoke is that they are surrounded by non-Muslims; they love and admire the wrong people.   Proph...