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Sincere advice for muslima on getting married

 


My husband is tall, dark, and handsome. He thinks like a philosopher, and his speech is intimidating yet inspiring. It was not hard to fall in love with him. However, relationships outside of marriage were not an option. It was a long night of uncertainty, but before the night ended, I decided to ask him to marry me. And I’ve told that story to many women. And I’m neither ashamed nor regretful.

It was 2014 when my husband and I got married. It was a simple and private wedding, hidden from my in-laws. My husband and I were young and still students at that time, and my in-laws were unready for it. Out of fear, we hid it from them.

Alhamdulillah, after one year, we confessed. Unexpectedly, they accepted it, and at last, we escaped the difficulty of hiding.

Today, in our Ummah, getting our parents approval for marriage has been a common problem when it should be simple.

Whatever the reason, we have to conquer our fear and put our trust in Allah. Eventually, it will all turn in our favor, especially if we do it for the sake of Allah.

Allah (swt) said:

“Whoever does righteousness, whether male or female, while he is a believer - We will surely cause him to live a good life, and we will surely give them their reward (in the hereafter) according to the best of what they used to do.” [1]


While writing this blog, I got in touch with my friend, who has been divorced twice and recently got married again. With this, it made us wonder how she still didn’t lose hope and still tried to get married again for the third time.

Getting divorced twice makes marriage look so hard, but why did she still choose to get married again? I asked her questions, and it’s all because of her faith. She believes in what Allah has promised: that if someone leaves, he will replace them with someone better. No matter what happens, Allah knows what’s best for her.

She's always been optimistic through all these trials, and they taught her to become more mature, grateful, and closer to Allah. She never feared getting married again because she entrusted everything to Allah, and he never forsook her. At last, Allah gave her the best husband.

She said, what motivated her to not lose hope was "When we embraced Islam with all our hearts. We will really entrust everything to him; we will submit to his will, and we will never question him for all the failures we may face in this world because we know that whatever happens, it will always be for our own good."

"Never lose hope in Allah; believe in Qadr. Our Jannah partner was already written, so who are we to control our destiny? Always be grateful and never question Allah," my friend said.

 

The prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said:

“If somebody comes to you and you are pleased with his character and religion then marry him. If you do not, there will be discord on earth and widespread corruption.” [2]

 

Let me know what you think of this article in the comment section below, and if you think this is beneficial or somehow helps you, please share it with your family and friends. I would love to hear from you. You can message me here: hayatalmuslima@gmail.com.

 

 

 [1] Quran 16:97

[2] Ibn Majah


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