My husband is tall,
dark, and handsome. He thinks like a philosopher, and his speech is
intimidating yet inspiring. It was not hard to fall in love with him. However,
relationships outside of marriage were not an option. It was a long night of
uncertainty, but before the night ended, I decided to ask him to marry me. And
I’ve told that story to many women. And I’m neither ashamed nor regretful.
It was 2014 when my
husband and I got married. It was a simple and private wedding, hidden from my
in-laws. My husband and I were young and still students at that time, and my
in-laws were unready for it. Out of fear, we hid it from them.
Alhamdulillah, after
one year, we confessed. Unexpectedly, they accepted it, and at last, we escaped
the difficulty of hiding.
Today, in our Ummah,
getting our parents approval for marriage has been a common problem when it
should be simple.
Whatever the reason, we
have to conquer our fear and put our trust in Allah. Eventually, it will all
turn in our favor, especially if we do it for the sake of Allah.
Allah (swt) said:
“Whoever does righteousness, whether
male or female, while he is a believer - We will surely cause him to live a
good life, and we will surely give them their reward (in the hereafter)
according to the best of what they used to do.” [1]
While writing this
blog, I got in touch with my friend, who has been divorced twice and recently got
married again. With this, it made us wonder how she still didn’t lose hope and
still tried to get married again for the third time.
Getting divorced twice
makes marriage look so hard, but why did she still choose to get married again?
I asked her questions, and it’s all because of her faith. She believes in what
Allah has promised: that if someone leaves, he will replace them with someone
better. No matter what happens, Allah knows what’s best for her.
She's always been
optimistic through all these trials, and they taught her to become more mature,
grateful, and closer to Allah. She never feared getting married again because
she entrusted everything to Allah, and he never forsook her. At last, Allah
gave her the best husband.
She said, what
motivated her to not lose hope was "When we embraced Islam with all our hearts.
We will really entrust everything to him; we will submit to his will, and we
will never question him for all the failures we may face in this world because
we know that whatever happens, it will always be for our own good."
"Never lose hope in Allah; believe in Qadr. Our Jannah partner was
already written, so who are we to control our destiny? Always be grateful and
never question Allah," my friend said.
The prophet Muhammad (peace be upon
him) said:
“If somebody comes to you and you
are pleased with his character and religion then marry him. If you do not,
there will be discord on earth and widespread corruption.” [2]
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[2] Ibn
Majah
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